Doesn’t it seem like the holidays are always right around the corner? Encouragement, and sometimes even pressure, to spend time with family can be tough. I hate when people use the phrase “setting boundaries” because it basically says nothing; however, establishing yourself as an adult who makes their own choices is essential.
Remember this: nobody owns you. Not your mom. Not your dad. Not your sister. Not your brother. Nobody gets to tell you where you need to be. You make that choice for yourself.
I have seen people return to family functions year after year, only to be emotionally beaten to the point of no return. Why do people treat their families like this? Because they think they can get away with it.
Somebody’s genetic relation to you has nothing to do with whether or not this person deserves a relationship with you. That comes from the value you place in each other. If somebody sees no value in you, why should you stick around to be treated as a punching bag?
Is it time to put your foot down? When is enough really enough?